You might have heard the quote, ‘when one door closes another one opens’.
I would like to challenge this belief by saying and I quote, ‘When one door closes, a crossroads appears’. Whether it’s personal or professional, people who have experienced a door closing behind them, like to think another door will open up and allow them to quickly move forward, towards a brighter, positive and more successful future.
I think that when a door closes behind you, 3 more doors open up every time. It’s just that we don’t notice the other two doors, one to the left and one to the right. We just look ahead because that’s generally (yet not always,) where our futures might lie. We tend to focus on doing what we believe is the right thing to do, instead of doing what is really right for us.
By doing this we miss the opportunity to take stock, rest, reflect and revise our options, for a better way of living and getting what we want; you could say this is turning left, rather than going straight ahead.
There is another option and that is to stop and make significant, alternative and permanent changes, in the way we live our lives. We could do this by revising what is personally important, positive and meaningful to us, individually and to our partners /others, if we have them. This would be making the decision to turn right, rather than going straight ahead.
The third way is to go straight ahead at full speed, through the door in front, possibly the first one that presents itself and perhaps into a similar situation to your previous one. You could call it ‘Groundhog Day!’
Being coached, means that we can look left, right and in front and we may even find more options than these that are open to us.
‘When one door closes another door opens, but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.’ – Alexander Graham Bell